Those darned great reasons. We've discussed them before. Yet it bears repeating because, well, let's just say that I even find myself wrapped in them from time to time. It takes practice.
So you're happily cruising along in your life and *bam* it happens. Something unexpected. "No big deal," you figure. "I can handle that." And usually you could. But not this time. Why not? Well, you've got your reasons!
Here's the thing. We know how to recognize the big ones. I'm tired, Don't have the time, Don't have the money. Blah, blah, blah.
But what about the sneaky little variations that slip in using different language? Or into a part of your life where you aren't trained to watch for trouble? Or even when the first great reason that pops into your mind is more of a habitual answer than the real deal?
What then?
Well, check out these 3 "deeper" possibilities:
When you hear this, think that.
1. You hear: I'm just too tired to deal with it right now.
In the past, perhaps you'd have blown off the rest of the evening in front of the tube. But next time it happens, try this on for size. Maybe the project, chore, or goal simply appears too big. Too intimidating. Unsurmountable!
But it's probably not. And the sooner you get on with things, the easier it's going to be. The first item on your agenda might be to break the "big" task down into managable bite-sized steps. If you have trouble working that out for yourself, no problem. Ask a sympathetic outsider for some objective input.
2. You hear: I just don't feel like doing it!
In the past, you would perhaps have blown the task off, yet felt terribly guilty because it wasn't getting done. Well guess what? That's a huge waste of energy! Instead, try this. Ask yourself, is this a task I'm really committed to doing? If not, then either find a way to upgrade your commitment level to the project, delegate it to someone else, or wipe it off your list entirely.
3. You hear: I've never really been very good at that sort of thing.
In the past, you would have dallied around doing other stuff instead, continuing to berate yourself for not being up to the task. Another huge energy drain. Instead, ask yourself this: Am I more committed to my "same old same old" story about not being good enough ... or more committed to the results I want?
Sometimes you've just gotta let go of the old to make room for the new!
Readers: Here's a grand idea for spring. Pick a simple project you'll enjoy having behind you. Then do it! Watch for the reasons we just discussed -- see if you can catch yourself in the act and transform an unproductive habit. You'll have double the reason to feel proud of your accomplishment!
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Elizabeth Eckert can help you explore how simple everyday choices create health — or undermine even the best of intentions. With a background that ranges from energy medicine to structural bodywork to developmental psychology, this "Stick-To-It Coach" has the experience to support you in creating the healthiest possible expression of — you!
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