Perspective. This topic came up in a coaching session just last week. Then it came up again on a gardening forum I participate in. Well, that started me thinking. My friend the fly sometimes gets misunderstood. He's such a helpful guy, too! Maybe it would be good to spend some time getting aquainted...
If I had to look back over my entire education in energy medicine, both the book learning and most especially the experiential part, there is one distinction that without question made the biggest impact on my learning process -- and on my own personal health. It was the process of gaining an appreciation for the health-enhancing value of learning to choose perspective on the events of a person's life.
Understanding the value of perspective with respect to health can be a challenge to grasp. It's even more of a challenge to apply. In my case (maybe I'm slow), it took several years of really reaching for the brass ring, aided by a long string of mostly-compassionate, patient teachers gently and not-so-gently nudging me along one little step at a time. We will only be able to just scratch the surface in a short article such as this one.
Before we go any further, I'd like to make one thing very clear. I am not "for," do not advocate, and do not condone any of the following:
- Marital infidelity
- Gang or Mob involvement
- Insensitivity to another person's values or culture
- Invalidating another person's essence or being
- Abusive neglect
- Unprovoked personal or group attack
- Acts of terrorism
- Or any other action or practice that causes or enhances unnecessary human suffering.
I also do not know why parents sometimes have to bury their children or grandchildren, why natural disasters strike, why innocent children get cancer, or the "why" behind other occurrences of that nature.
What I do know is that whether or not I like it, with or without my approval, all of these things happen. They happen to us, us humans. And until or unless we can gain a measure of control over our emotions in the aftermath, actions or events like these can control -- even ruin -- our lives. In addition to rendering us incapable of productive activity -- sometimes for many years, they can cause us to lose focus while driving (causing accidents), disable our immune systems (leaving us open to disease), and cause bodily pain and discomfort (sometimes to the point of complete disability). I have seen all of these things occur.
For me, this matter of perception and empowerment is the single most preventable cause of human suffering that I can impact. I know it is possible to gain control over those emotions and reclaim our lives.
In this process, our ally is the humble fly.